I was still grieving for Don even though we hadn't been together in quite some time (since 1984) He was still a good friend and someone I could hash things out with when life got a little crazy. He had been married twice since our divorce. I knew that even though he was not going to be in my life the same way ever again, he was still a large part of our daughter's lives. They were grieving too. His death was very sudden. He was playing basketball with some friends and just collapsed with a massive heart attack.
So when Doug, who had been a good friend and coworker for many years, asked me if I might be interested, all I could think about was all the craziness that was my life at that point. He didn't give up on me. He brought us a sympathy card and gift. He was so kind. He prayed for us. He broke through that resistance in short order and in April of 2002 we were married. The church was full to capacity on that wonderful day.
I think my Sweetie is one of the kindest men ever. He also has a great sense of humor and can talk to me when I am "nonconversive" and broody, which is especially when I have lots of stuff on my mind. He must think some times that he's talking to a wall.
He is very patient with me and he is VERY romantic. He doesn't believe in bringing me decapitated flowers, but brings me beautiful perennials. He encourages and tells me I'm the most beautiful, even though wrinkles are taking over and there's sagging in places that never sagged before.
He helped me care for Mom for years before she passed away in 2005 and he sat with me through that really hard time. He was with me through some difficult family issues and with the passing of Aunts and Uncles and friends. If I want to spend time with friends or family he is not jealous of our time together.
He fixes my car when it is ailing and keeps it running pretty good for an old thing. He calls himself a "grease monkey" but he's learned lots working on all the many vehicles we have scatter around.
He's not able to do everything he would like because of his physical limitations, but he does all he can to make our lives comfortable. He is patient with me when I spend money meant for other budget categories and gives me "that look" that keeps me in line (most of the time).
I hope he has a wonderful birthday and that the Lord allows him many more to come.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY SWEETIE!